Happy New Year! (or, Get Out of Dodge!)

Although we recognize that plenty of good things happened in 2022, the start of a new year can be melancholy – sadness for the people who are no longer part of our lives, regret over mistakes or missed opportunities, self-criticism for goals left unfinished. It’s easy to let those negative thoughts overpower the good ones until we’ve ruminated into a funk.

But how about if we try something different this year?

How about if we tell those negative voices in our heads to
take a hike,
hit the road,
get lost,
vamoose,
make like a tree and leave,
get out of Dodge,
beat it,
call it a day,
make yourself scarce,
go fly a kite,
make like a banana and split,
buzz off,
take a powder….

You get the idea.

Pay attention to those negative trains of thought and derail them! Tongue in cheek, but no less accurate. You don’t have to be a slave to those critical, disapproving, judgmental voices in your head.

When you catch your brain trash-talking you, turn it off. Literally do something else – recite a positive affirmation, say a prayer for yourself or someone else, do a few jumping jacks or deep knee bends – whatever it takes to get your ruminating brain out of the rut it’s digging.

Because just like our brains can have negative ruts that keep us trapped, with practice, we can build positive ones that are even deeper.

So instead of beating myself up because I didn’t post enough on this blog, I’ll fixate on the articles and posts I got published elsewhere. Instead of regretting goals that didn’t come to fruition, I’ll focus on ones that did.

How about you? Can you reframe those negative thoughts about 2022 into positive ones?

I’ll answer that – yes, you can!

What’s My Superpower?

My family loves Disney, and our latest fascination/obsession is with the movie Encanto. A miraculous house grants powers to the family members who live there. For some reason, the heroine, Mirabel, isn’t given a gift or power when she comes of age, and the story tells of her search to find meaning in life as just an “ordinary” person.

Her sisters feel a different kind of pressure as they seek to live up to the gifts they’ve been given.

Isabela sings, “What could I do if I knew it didn’t need to be perfect?” in “What Else Can I Do?”

Louisa sings, “I’m pretty sure I’m worthless if I can’t be of service,” in “Surface Pressure.”

Don’t we all feel this way? Finding out who we are is a task for the young, but it is also something we face as we age and our circumstances change. If I retire, and I’m not a doctor anymore, who am I? Now that my daughters have all begun their own beautiful lives and I am not called upon to mother them every day, who am I? And doesn’t the world call us worthless if we can’t somehow be useful to society? Ouch.

As I shared this sense of shifting identity with one of my daughters, she said, “But you didn’t mention your Christian identity.” And she was right.

My identity in Christ isn’t based on what I can do or how perfect I am. It’s based solely on God’s love for me. He doesn’t care that I’m not perfect or strong or even useful. He knows me better than anyone else and loves me anyway.

So, my friends, if you are struggling to claim your identity, or find your gift, or identify your power, remember this:

Your identity is God’s beloved child.

Your gift is his unfailing and unconditional love, and your power is his love within you.

Though the mountains fall away and the hills be shaken,

My love shall never fall away from you

nor my covenant of peace be shaken,

says the Lord (Isaiah 54:10).

I’d love to hear your comments below, and if you know someone who could use this encouragement, please share.